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Spiritual Self Care and your Inner Wink Passion. by The WizardStar
We all hear about the person whom is kind, loving, assisting others, they do just about everything, from cook, to sew, to landscaping and without doubt, are viewed by others as the cornerstone of society. The dependable soul down the street, the one whom pays it forward, bakes cookies the new family who just moved in, brings soups to the elderly neighbor, holds the baby showers, decorates the homemade birthday cake, makes the lunches and then off to a full time career.
You will find them in the ice rink, cheering on a son or daughters hockey game only to go home, clean the house, wash the dog, iron uniforms, do the shopping, get the library books back, then home to make dinner, then a few more chores! Point is, where do you fit in? If this makes you cringe, and you’re nodding your head, hmmm sounds like me, then take account of what is! Don't get me wrong, it's wonderful to help others, but you have to keep it in check that you are the only you, and you are the first priority.
Are you the over doer, the people pleaser the one that the world seems to depend on? Stop! Yes, we all like acknowledgment, but not at the expense of yourself. Take stock of, why you have to be the over achiever firstly. Secondly, please ask yourself, whom is it that is doing for you? Does anyone in the family, do something for you? Probably not, reason why, is that they automatically know, you will do it, due to the way you have conditioned this process. Are you doing for you?
Before you grab another grocery list ask yourself this... stop the clock and do a self check here. What can I do for myself that makes me happy? What is it that is on my self care" inner wink" list? After all, happiness does come within the confines of your own heart; it’s not really others that are going to give you inner happiness. What have I done for myself as of recent, that makes me feel great? While it’s nice being the "outer wink"/caregiver to family, and society and attending to the needs of others, nurturing them, start to nurture "You". Self care is vital you must, spiritually and emotionally love yourself first, and do for you, that mean taking care of the inner you. Setting aside the time. Sometimes we are indeed a sandwich generation, and for some, we are responsible for caring for the kids, and elder care. You have to ensure, sleep hygiene , eating well, keeping your temple healthy in this process. Yes, its a work life balance and a "spiritual self care balance"
Too many souls are off running out saving the day and the world, the family and some one else's too, as they are the care givers, over doers, over achievers, need for perfection. Stop it, you’re worrying far too much and your energy will indeed get off balance. So do an about face and start attending to some of your inner needs, just as you would tend to your spiritual garden of hope or well planted calla lily’s and morning glory’s. You need to tend your garden of life and plant the seeds so that they too shall blossom into a nice bumper crop and then the full crop later on that you can bask in ..
Start with your own authentic passions, be it going back to college, taking an online course, obtaining some spiritual books, or crafts. Get proactive, build or paint something, put on your music, write, journal, or have fun making a Dream come true board, with all your wishes and hopes on it. Taking courses, even jewelry making or a one day seminar! How about getting involved in the arts, with clay and pottery and putting your creativity level into full throttle. How about yoga, swimming or Pilates. What makes you passionate about your life?
What is it that you wish to do, that is your calling, your "inner wink", get in touch with this part of yourself. Learn to have fun, and play in the sandbox of life again. One must champion the calling they have within, use it welcome this newness, perhaps your in a career that you dislike, (mom and dad wanted you to be A ..... )? Well that may have been their hope and dream, but your "inner wink" of passion of your own authentic values of what you are meant to do, is sitting right under your hat.
You are drawn to something, it feels right, you fear it but you take the risk, and move career paths, or you take time out and actually go on a small retreat, even two days away, can change your perspective, and help you get in touch with the inner you. If we don't take risk we don't grow, and be our best. If we fear, then that equates to self doubt, don't doubt your path or your heart, let go, and live walk your passion and path the way your are meant to and don't hold back.
Sometimes all we need is a prompt, so I am here to give you one. I hope that I have provoked some positive thoughts for you, to enable you to be more proactive.
To sum it up.
1. Stop doing so much for others that you neglect yourself.
2. Affirm that you do deserve happiness, love, and to work in your passion.
3. Affirm inside, that you a spontaneous human being, made in the divine, and deserve to work in the best career ever, one that you choose, the one that is calling you.
4. Get away, take time for you, and ensure you do it. I reiterate, (ensure you do it)!
5. Get into your books, study, learn craft, do art, take yoga, journal, write from your heart, listen to music, meditate, get a massage.
6. Something that is wonderful to do, is taking a look at all that mother nature has given us for free to see feel touch, walk on and have kid like fun, take photos of all that mother nature shows us, as nature does speak to the inner you. Or what about getting a pet, even a nice calm fish to watch, or building a spiritual garden filled with all your delights, claim it, love it, but most of all have fun with it.
7. Time to get in touch with what resonates with you, what is your calling? Your inner passion? Sit and journal, write it out, what are your dreams?
Please remember, self care, and your "inner wink", to look after your body, your temple, your mind, soul, spirit and attitude, is paramount. You are very special, made in perfection, and you deserve to have it all, in being the best person you can be. May you have a Blessed Day
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